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This book. Arrrrgh. This book. I was initially intrigued by Sugar in My Bowl, a collection of essays edited by Erica Jong, because of its premise. Kirkus Book Reviews. Book Reviews, Features & Columns, Blogs, Kirkus TV, Pro Connect SUGAR IN MY BOWL by Erica Jong. Kirkus Star. Sugar in My Bowl by Erica Jong - book cover, description, publication history.
If you don't know who either Erica Jong or Henry Miller is then there is no point in reading much beyond this. I was surprised to read Erica Jong taking up cudgels on behalf of Henry Miller. Yes, you read that right. It's funny how you can read something and it is not until years later that someone points out the obvious.
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Henry Miller is an unredeemed writer. Look at all those "Top " book lists and you'll be lucky to see him mentioned. He is conspicuous by his absence everywhere. Except in Erica Jong's estimation. Henry Miller is unredeemed because he wrote about Sex with a capital S.
He wrote about sex in an explicit way.
His novels were banned for around 30 years and are still banned is schools throughout most of the western world. Yet millions of copies of his books have been sold. Yes, that may be true but it's not the whole story.
Erica Jong mentions that in one of the classes she teaches on English Literature her students, after working their way through the required reading list, always remark about how much sex there is in older works.
She points out that it was the Victorians who gave us our current distorted view on sex. You can also work out that as soon as the Victorians removed sex from literature, an industry sprang up to meet the sudden demand for the forbidden fruit. That industry we now refer to "the porn industry". Anyway, if you know who those two people are it is a good read. It is intelligent, honest and thought provoking. It sheds light on Henry Miller's life and work and indeed who he was outside of the infamous novels.
Interestingly both od them think that not much has changed. Henry Miller is quoted as saying that in terms of sexual attitudes and mores the western world has actually gone backwards since the sixties. At the end of that book was a blurb about all the other books she wrote apart from the one that made her famous. I saw a recent one called "Sugar In My Bowl" which was a collection of essays that she edited.
The collection of essays is about "real women write about the best sex they ever had in their lives". So I read that. It was NOT like the current deluge of women porn on Amazon that has phrases such as "his throbbing member" or "her hot pussy" scattered over a bare framework called a story.
The many accounts of real or imagined sex or of no sex at all that make up this collection are both touching and illuminating. It is like a kaleidoscope of colour compared to the monotone image of sex that is broadcast via the media in all its forms.
This in turn lead me to an interview by an American female journalist and a French single woman talking about sex. Within an hour at the most you are on your way to either your place or his place. If the sex is good you may consider attempting a relationship or not. That was the rule. She was surprised and shocked to discover this repressive attitude towards women in America.
The constant repression of sex in our culture has given us the now all pervasive world of porn and its rendition of naked womens' bodies being purely for sex. Womens bodies are sexualised in advertising, movies, tv, fashion, you name it and if there is a woman's body in the picture it is sexualised.
Recently, here, we saw bathing suits for young girls being advertised with padded tops and I'm talking about 8 year olds. I honestly think that in our culture it is now impossible to see nakedness or sex in anything other than that repressive context.
The irony is that implied sex is used against us daily in every advertising image we are confronted with yet real sex is banned! We take all this for granted and our moralistic christian outlook is considered normal, yet, without its constant judgemental glare how else could we even have a porn industry?
And look at those christian establishments, what have we seen in them over the last few years when it comes to morality? We have no problem understanding what happened when they introduced the prohibition of alcohol in the US.
I'm optimistic that we also see the sense in the legalisation of marijuana. And yet we are blind when it comes to the repression of sex. Ponder on this, when Cook first came to the Pacific and before those damned missionaries came, the locals would have sex anywhere at any time irrespective of who was around but would only eat in private!
The locals were both shocked and outraged at the sight of the English people eating in public.
While the English were shocked to see them fucking all over the place. Sandwich anyone?
May 05, Autumn Kotsiuba rated it it was ok Shelves: I cringed checking this book out at the library; I read it only when I was home alone. I mean, reading about sex? What a perverted thing to do And that's the whole point. This attitude of "sex is inherently shameful" is detrimental, whether it's coming from an antifeminist platform or from an overzealous religious one.
This book explored specific women's experiences going from Catholic school to wild nights; from refusing to looking at themselves in the mirror to allowing anyone a p Er This book explored specific women's experiences going from Catholic school to wild nights; from refusing to looking at themselves in the mirror to allowing anyone a peek; and so on.
Some of the essays came off like it sounds, swinging the pendulum in my view a little too far. Others were great. The point is that no one is the same, and no matter your view, shame isn't the right answer.
I could only offer 2 stars, though, because it fell into the traps many anthologies do: Interesting because of the bluntness and subject matter, but lacking in presentation. Mar 18, Mary Havens rated it really liked it Shelves: Like all anthologies, there were some entries I loved, some I tolerated, and some that were forgettable. I definitely connected with the non-fiction pieces more than the fiction, the exceptions being Jennifer Weiner's piece and Julie Klam's that might not have been fiction now that I look back.
The ones that fell absolutely flat for me where any kind of "erotic" fiction. That's not my t Like all anthologies, there were some entries I loved, some I tolerated, and some that were forgettable. That's not my thing. I will say that I felt super-naughty reading a book with this title around my kids and my parents. My very prudish nature blushed thinking I had such provocative material in my hands and out on display.
There's also a very nice description of each author in the back and I would read their bio before reading their work. Jul 16, Katie rated it really liked it Shelves: As a sort of recovering Puritan but without much left in the way of hangups about sex, I didn't know I was missing this lovely collection of women discussing sex. These writers share their personal experience of sex, or a sexual encounter.
For the most part, this is not socio-political criticism.
There is wonderful variation, which really makes me appreciate how pervasive and essential sex is, but also how it encompasses a huge range of expressions. Almost all of the stories do deal at some leve As a sort of recovering Puritan but without much left in the way of hangups about sex, I didn't know I was missing this lovely collection of women discussing sex. A few are bawdy funny-shocking escapes.
Also, some well-known, favorite women writers join in on this which makes it worth reading. Kudos to them for being so generous and vulnerable in order to enlighten us readers. Like any anthology, I greatly enjoyed some entries, disliked others, and are ambivalent towards the rest. It's a good collection for exploring and celebrating feminism. May 25, Lowry rated it really liked it. Great topic, great writing, lots of different approaches - plus it's lots of fun to read.
May 24, Laura Santana rated it it was amazing. Brilliant, enlightening insider, encouraging. I can't believe what I read, amazing. The stories, couldn't get enough wish there where more. I did not get enough. Apr 10, Klarissa Malloy rated it it was amazing. Mar 16, Jennifer rated it liked it Shelves: Overall, it's pretty interesting that when you ask several women to define their best sex no two answers are the same.
May 31, Amy rated it really liked it Shelves: This is a particularly American response. Its power is simply taken for granted throughout the world.
I went to fraternity parties in college. I hooked up with guys. I followed two British bands in the early 90s without even kissing any members of either band. Erica Jong gathered a diverse group of women to write essays and short stories about sex for Sugar in My Bowl: Real Women Write about Real Sex. Rebecca Walker writes about fantasy versus reality. Ariel Levy and Fay Weldon write essays about losing their virginity.
Honor Moore reflects on the ground-breaking Story of O. It is among the fastest ways to get to know another person. During sex, we literally and figuratively expose ourselves. She writes: There was no need for us to fight the power because we were the power. Sex is a form of expression. Real Woman Write about Real Sex should appeal to a wide variety of women as it considers sex from various angles.
Many of the younger writers proved more reticent towards sex than older writers in the collection. Mar 09, Kate rated it really liked it. First off, I liked Jong's question in the introduction: I had never thought of this before, and I'm not sure if I agree or not.
On page 6 I learned that there is a documentary entitled Orgasmic Birth, and I laughed, because I had an aunt once talk about this at Thanksgiving and it became a family joke.
Interesting quote form Roiphe's essay: It builds on the sex the night before, the year before, the decade before. Sex is a matter that unfolds like an accordion in the brain, the past is connected to the near past to the present and the future stands there waiting to be attached.
So the feelings in the body, the feelings for someone else, the excitement of the new or the welcome of the familiar rises and falls, depends on memory, gains its depth from what happened at the beginning, a while ago, in the imagination, in reality.
Cool quote p. Don't let them tame you. I did once hear them doing it. I wanted to pour boiling oil in my ears.
If evil governments are really looking to torture prisoners, they should forget waterboarding and just make them sit in a room beside their parents having loud sex. I'd talk! I not only heard my parents having sex 2x growing up, I also walked in on them once- pretty hellish. Interesting quote on p. Some very interesting essays in this book mostly on love and lust, and they made me feel very normal.
Mar 30, Julie rated it really liked it. Some of these stories contain great insights into the mind's of women and sex and the enjoyment of peeking under the covers of their intimate lives was fairly entertaining.
Of course, as other reviewers have noted, there are some shocking entries in the book. However, I feel the work tried to maintain the real thoughts and it would go against the grain of the book to censor.
I also thought the added fiction was enjoyable and even fictitious work holds some element of truth about the author. It's Some of these stories contain great insights into the mind's of women and sex and the enjoyment of peeking under the covers of their intimate lives was fairly entertaining.
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It's a given that there will be more interesting stories than others when there are multiple authors, similar to songs on an album, not every tune is loved. Overall an interesting read, some insights were not what I expected, so maybe something of an eye-opener. Funniest Quote from Catholic school about sex, sinning and a major guilt trip: That was the same year I went on my first annual retreat in which a visiting priest urged us to envision Jesus dying on the cross, gazing out into the future, and seeing "you, sinning in the backseat of a car.
With a long-term partner, I can relax. He is not surprised by the moles on my back, nor is he self-conscious about the hairs on his shoulders. There's a kind of transcendence to married sex, a connection that is more than the sum of body parts linked and flesh responding, as if the most physical acts was also the threshold to spiritual intimacy Funny quote about parents having sex: My parents sleep naked.
Whereas if I could shower wearing a T-shirt and underwear, I would. And before you wonder, I did once hear them doing it. I wanted to pour boiling water in my ears. The years went by, the sex she had mellowed some, but her thoughts always came back to that one intense sexual experience she had with that lover, Steven. Fair enough. She was in town and wanted to meet with Sexton to catch up and go shopping. Sexton writes: What upset me most? The fact that he was now a woman?
It was disgustingly transphobic.
Sugar in My Bowl: Real Women Write About Real Sex
Except then she writes: Even at the tender age of twelve we understood how profoundly misguided our teachers were. We knew how to go into a store and buy things. Most of us smoked at least a few cigarettes a day by twelve years old. Short bus riders. Essays , Sex , Virginity , Women.
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I loved almost all of the essays by older women who grew up in a different sexual era.
Unless of course we chose to join the convent and dedicate ourselves to perpetual chastity. Sugar in My Bowl started out strong, and I was really enjoying myself for a while.